oops.
So yesterday ended not so great.
I am struggling to get to terms on a situation with a friend. She isn’t doing that great & some other friends want to step in & intervene before it gets too late. In my opinion, she is just going to be pushed away from everyone & then when SHE WANTS help, she won’t feel like there is anyone she can comfortable turn to. I just don’t know if I can live with myself knowing I did nothing if something were to happen & I don’t want to lose a friend by pushing her away due to judging her. Argh, why can’t life be wonderful all the time?
I was really upset about it all last night & ended up doing the comfort food thing without even thinking. I had gone to the beach to clear my head by watching the waves roll in & then on the way home I ended up getting a cheeseburger & fries. It was a small one & just had cheese on it & I ended up only eating about half the fries, but it wasn’t in line with my calorie goals for the day. Scale is the same this morning which I feel lucky about, even if I wanted it to drop. Just glad it didn’t rise.
Argh. I need to jog right now, but I am stuck to this desk at work. Not even thinking about work, just wondering what to do. I want to focus on me & my life right now. Get myself healthy. But I need to figure out something. I love my friend even if she isn’t being herself lately.
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I’m rebellious in nature. I think I wouldn’t appreciate an “intervention” of sorts (even if I totally needed it) especially if my friends were all much thinner than I am. Possibly you could approach her that you’d like a work out/diet buddy or something and see if you can motivate each other first? Start a competition or something that you know might get her started. I think that trying to help her jump start herself possibly on a 1 on 1 situation or a small group of close friends might be worth a try before an intervention. But I do think it is so wonderful that she has friendds like you….and so don’t feel bad! Keep up your good work!
Its not weight related. She is one of the skinniest people I know. Used to be one of the healthiest. She is just in a new lifestyle that is no where near healthy. There is a lot of assuming going on to how bad things are, but we just want our friend back healthy & staying alive. It would be so much easier to deal with if it were a weight issue.
Thanks for the support. I just don’t think confronting people about anything works out great. I know I would rebel too!
I, personally would find an intervention really humiliating and infuriating and if my friends organised one, no matter how well-intentioned or needed it may be, I would either kick them out or walk out myself. Sometimes we all go through things that we need to just figure out on our own and (this is only my opinion) the best thing you can do is be a friend to her. Let her know that you care and spend time doing things that make you both smile. If she knows she can trust you she might come to you for advice when she’s ready to deal with it.
